Are Gay people unable to LOVE?
THE VATICAN WILL NOT BLESS SAME-SEX MARRIAGES FORBES CLAIMS
According to a recent article by Forbes the Vatican informed this Monday that priests cannot bless same sex-marriages.
According to a decree signed by Pope Francis, it was stated that “choice and a way of life that cannot be recognized as objectively ordered” and that “the blessing of homosexual unions cannot be considered licit”.
Statistics reveal that there are approximately 1.3 billion members who where hoping more openness from the Vatican. It seems that apparently Pope Francis accepted “civil-law” unions, instead of unions within the church.
In the documentary “Francesco”: “Homosexual people have the right to be in a family. They are children of God,” Francis said .“You can’t kick someone out of a family, nor make their life miserable for this. What we have to have is a civil union law; that way they are legally covered.”
As a catholic raised individual I found these news rather upsetting although far from surprising which is what upsets me the most. The Forbes article was published in Twitter and I read some opinions in favour, some against. One could sense feelings of rage, sadness or relief.
The reason I found the news upsetting and very disappointing is because as a catholic-raised individual I have struggled to grow as a loving person under the catholic church, while my brother for instance, the most loving and gentle person I know has found comfort and tries to follow the church as truthfully as he can. He is homosexual. I am heterosexual. Does that mean that just because I am heterosexual I am better or more suited to marry in the eyes of the church than him, a homosexual?
I, a heterosexual who claims to be catholic but acts otherwise, am better suited to marry? I, who question the church, who have struggled to love, to create joy at times or make others around me feel safe and loved, I am suited to church-union? I have an unquestionable right to marry? Because of my sexuality? And my brother, a gentle, loving, obedient and faithful individual who creates a jolly and loving atmosphere everywhere he goes, whose faith is unquestionably envious, he, just because of being homosexual is no longer suited to a church-union?
My question is: What is the point of marriages now a days? What is the point of church-unions between individuals? Is the goal only one of reproduction? Are there not sufficient human beings on earth already?
My reflection is: Shouldn’t church-unions between individuals be made to practice and learn to love, to form if possible a loving family responsible for creating stable, gentle and loving human beings? Human beings free of envy, human beings raised with values, human beings who do not need to succumb to crime, violence or selfishness because of lack of love.
My point is: Individuals, children and later on adults need love to survive in our global society. What is the point to celebrate heterosexual church-unions if there is a lack of love? If those individuals are not properly prepared to compromise to such responsibility? I, a heterosexual would now be completely unable to marry under the church, I have neither unquestionable faith nor emotional stability. My brother, however, with unquestionable faith, a true catholic with emotional stability is not able to marry just because his partner is of the same sex? Are the chances of him creating a greater loving environment considerably less than mine? What is there to sexuality?
Why does sexuality matter to the church, if what matters is to spread love in the world? If Catholicism’s aim is to create a world full of love, good actions, empathy, generosity and union?
I might be missing perspective or perhaps not fully understood God’s message to the world. I do doubt, however, that His message would be one of unhappiness and disunion. And not allowing same-sex marriages under the Church, to me creates unhappiness and disunion.
This is the reason I was saddened by the news.
